Emotional Hygiene & Resilience

Guy Winch is a Doctor of Psychology and uses his experience to describe how humans could benefit from “emotional hygiene”.

He shares examples around how we learn physical hygiene at an early age yet are not taught how to handle our thoughts.

His real life examples of how we react to loneliness, failure, rejection, and

Main takeaways:

  • Take action when you’re lonely – do something about it and don’t fear the
  • Change response to failure – believe in yourself and affirm positive facts
  • Protect your self-esteem – build yourself up after rejection
  • Battle negative thinking – consciously monitor your thoughts and change them if needed
  • Prioritize psychological health

Doing these things will build emotional resilience and improve quality of life.

Sim City 5 – Update 6.0 – Population SPIKE!

The new SimCity 5 game release its update #6.0 today where RCI was supposed to get an overhaul.

Well – when I loaded my city, it immediately SPIKED in population.  Did this happen to anyone else?


Of course, I wasn’t ready for this and so my infrastructure couldn’t handle it. No city can handle such rapid gain in population.

Damn SimCity update 6 smashed my cities dreams of being awesome… time to start another city?

How to: Search gMail WITHOUT Opening Inbox

search gmail without opening inbox

Hello everyone – this is a follow up gMail “hack” which can dramatically increase your productivity.(the first post was how to send an email without opening gMail inbox)

Premise: Seeing your inbox is distracting & often forces you to forget what you went in there for in the first place. <– That’s happened to make at least 2734928398 times.

Solution: Search gMail inbox WITHOUT opening gMail inbox!


BONUS: You can also do this with Google Drive.. here’s how… (SETUP)

  1. In Google Chrome browser, open settings (CMD + ,)
  2. Click “Manage Search Engines…”
  3. Scroll to the bottom where there is a blank text box with grey’d out writing “Add a new search engine”
  4. Enter “GMAIL” in the left box
  5. Enter “gmail.com” in the center box
  6. Enter “https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/#search/%s” into the right box

Now, how to use it… (USAGE)

  1. Open a new tab (CMD + t)
  2. Start typing “gmail.com”
  3. After several characters (or typing the whole thing), press TAB
  4. You should see “Search GMAIL” in a blue box on the left of the address bar
  5. Type the keyword you want to search and press enter


That’s how to search gmail without opening your inbox…

To do the same thing with Google Drive, replace step 4, 5, and 6 in the first set of instructions (SETUP) with the following, respectively:

  • drive.google.com
  • https://drive.google.com/#search/%s

Then, in step 2 of the second set of instructions (USEAGE), replace “gmail.com” with “drive.google.com”

Simple as that – Now you can search Google Drive without opening “My Drive” and getting confused / forgetting what you went in there for in the first place!

I know these two tricks have saved me a whole lot of time & heartburn, hope they do the same for you!

Avishek Sengupta’s Memorial Service Information

The definition of tragedy

For information on what happened to Avi, please read this article describing his death at Tough Mudder.

Memorial Service Information

408602_10101730970093908_1778423235_nPlease join Avi’s family in celebrating his life and honoring his memory. He was an incredible man and an amazing brother to us all.

Memorial services will be will be held at Donaldson Funeral Home & Crematory, 1411 Annapolis Rd, Odenton, MD on Thursday, April 25th, 2013, at 1:00.

Immediately afterward we will hold a Reception in Avi’s honor at the Malik family residence, 3886 Whitebrook Lane, Ellicott City, 21042. All are encouraged to come and share memories of Avi.

Further Details:

– Avi’s close friend, Jon Hess, is collecting money on behalf of Avi’s family for flowers, food, etc. If you would like to contribute, Jon is collecting via PayPal under his email account: Jonathanrhess@gmail.com. Feel free to contact him at 443-904-6420.

– If you would like to speak at the Memorial, please contact me separately via email or phone (410-207-5810).

– We encourage Avi’s many groups of friends to coordinate and make posters of your pictures with Avi. We would enjoy having your posters displayed at his Memorial Services.

– If you would like to send flowers, you can send them directly to the Donaldson Funeral Home & Crematory or Avi’s Parents (Mita & Bijon) House (10084 Waterford Drive, Ellicott City, MD 21042). If you send it to the Funeral Home, we can easily transport them after the services to Avi’s parents house

36321_10151073771791958_1183505884_n– Estimated time of events:
– 1:00 – 4:00 – Memorial Services
Donaldson Funeral Home & Crematory
1411 Annapolis Rd, Odenton, MD
– 5:00 – Onward – Reception
Malik Family Residence
3886 Whitebrook Lane, Ellicott City, 21042

GMAIL: Send/Compose Email withOUT Opening Inbox

Here is a quick gMail tip for a HUGE #productivity boost…

If you’re like me, email is a serious part of your life.  Often times you open your gMail inbox to send an email.. but once you get in there, you immediately start reading and replying to your latest emails… and often times FORGET why you opened your email in the first place.

This happen to me several times when communicating with the people behind this website.

SO – I figured out how to compose and send an email without opening and seeing your gMail inbox (the no-inbox approach)… Here is how it’s done….

Simple How To: Send an email w/o opening gMail

You will need:

  • To be logged into your gmail account in your browser of choice
  • Know how to add a bookmark
  • Know how to use your bookmarks
Step 1: Add this URL to your bookmark bar..


Step 2: When you want to send an email without opening your inbox… open that bookmark.

(I usually open it in a new window by holding apple (CMD) and clicking.. or with a mouse, click down on the mouse wheel to open a new window)

Done… and the best part is that since you’re logged into your Google account – it still drops down the names of people you’ve emailed and are in your contacts list.. AWESOME!

NOTE: With the new gMail compose & reply being laid on top of the inbox, it seems this trick still works, BUT it ruins and links or images you might have in your signature.  I’m still looking for a way to compose an email without viewing your inbox AND without ruining your signature.  Stay tuned…

Hope this helps.. I know it makes my life a lot easier.

Quick Advice on Starting a Business

Sharing some thoughts on “how to start a business” and “the struggles of starting a business” …

How to start your business…

1) Make your first sale & make sure you deliver 110% (always do this, but especially in the beginning)


2)Put something on paper, build a prototype (if applicable), and practice pitching your business idea — Then either go after investment or see #1.

Either way, just do it (sorry Nike).

Be prepared…

There will always be stuggles, obstacles, roadblocks, difficulties, and challenges…

Remember that it’s all about attitude.

If you face a situation with a positive attitude.. the outcome will be positive 🙂

No matter what you do…

Read these 2 books..
That’s all from me… of course I would like to hear what you have to add……

Note to Self: Don’t Have Kids [Yet]

It was a typical morning commute: I’m driving like an asshole (trying to wake up) which prompts someone to want to race.. bring it on.

This morning was extra interesting as the racing situation I faced made an awesome analogy to life, specifically the decisions of having children.

My opponent and I started out racing in a straight line, from light to light.  He was winning.. he had the right lane choices and was ahead.. until it came to the final stretch before the highway on ramp.

You see, my opponent had a small child in a car seat strapped to the back seat.. so when it came to the open road before the 25mph curved on-ramp, he was too scared to push to higher speeds and didn’t want the hard brake before clinching for a tight turn.

How does this have anything to do with life choices?

My theory is that once you’ve made certain commitments (ie. getting married, having kids) – your risk tolerance and nimbleness to life’s curve balls (the on-ramp) lowers dramatically.

The opponent was winning when everything was easy going (the straight line), but as soon as the life conditions changed, he was not ready and had to slow down.

I definitely want a wife and kids, but don’t think I’m ready for it, yet.

Needless to say, once I entered the on-ramp, he was no longer in my rear view mirror 😀

Re: 10 Annoying Things by Nazanin Nour

Ms. Nazanin Nour,

I read some of your blog, you’re a good writer.  Sorry to hear about your bullying experiences.. for some reason that post reminded me of “Big Bang Theory”.

Anyway, in response to your post about 10 Annoying things people do, and other musings ::


10. I’m at the gun range, so if I pick up, all you’re going to hear is BANG, BANG BANG, BANG, BANG BANG BANG BANG, etc… you don’t want that.  Nor do I want to remove my ear protection and risk going deaf.

OR – maybe I’m @ a movie… can I text you then?

OR – maybe I called, you didn’t pick up.. then when you call back, I’m dealing with nature’s call.. shall I conference you into that?

9.  Not sure that’s the best assumption Nazi jaan… how do you know I received the text.. that my phone is on.. that I’m ALIVE?! — I think a simple “k” is a perfect response to provide confirmation… k? 😉
Admittedly, there are instances that don’t require a “K” response (see image below).

8. 100% agree.  These people deserve near-death experiences.

7. I get annoyed at the person for not having seen the movie in question!

Here I am, ready to have an engaging conversation about a motion picture which tickled my emotions and you… wait a second… YOU HAVEN’T SEEN STAR WARS?!

6. I don’t like drama, but these people require a Krispy Kreme.  (100% agree).

5. LOL @ “what KiKi did that pissed you off” hahaha — I have a similar feeling about people who do this on line in the bank.. like dude, you’re in a bank, I’m trying to rob the place and you’re talking about how fire wood isn’t what it used to be… WHO CARES!?

4. Could, not, agree, MORE.. I hate guys who wear “wife beaters” (who came up with that name btw?) to the gym.. I know you have muscles bro, you’re here EVERY time that I come.. congrats.

3. LOL – it’s 50 times worse in the guys locker room dear, trust that.

2. Yeah, that is annoying.. you know what’s worse? :: Hearing about the twitter conversation someone had about the game and how if they ever meet @dbag1998 in real life they’re going to kill them.

1. Good call, that is annoying.. I’ll talk to you next time the Redskins make it to the playoffs, if we’re still alive that is. 🙂


BONUS: in the time it took me to write this, I’ve received 14 emails.. email = annoying.




Let’s Have An American Christmas, OK?

My dad forwarded me an email today which I’ve quoted below.

The gist of this post is simple: A large percentage of the billions spent on Xmas gifts are on material goods that are built in China.  Instead of buying material goods, how about buying gift certificates for local business services?!

America’s economy is in the shitter while the Chinese are growing like a fertilized weed.  Some think: “What can I do about it?” — Here is their answer:

Christmas 2011 — Birth of a New Tradition

As the holidays approach, the giant Asian factories are kicking into high gear to provide Americans with monstrous piles of cheaply produced goods –merchandise that has been produced at the expense of American labor.

This year can be different. This year Americans can give the gift of genuine concern for other Americans. There is no longer an excuse that, at gift-giving time, nothing can be found that is produced by American hands. Yes there is!

It’s time to think outside the box, people.  Who says a gift needs to fit in a shirt box, wrapped in Chinese produced wrapping paper? Everyone — yes EVERYONE gets their hair cut.  How about gift certificates from your local American hair salon or barber?

Gym membership?  It’s appropriate for all ages who are thinking about some health improvement.

Who wouldn’t appreciate getting their car detailed?  Small, American-owned detail shops and car washes would love to sell you a gift certificate or a book of gift certificates.

Are you one of those extravagant givers who think nothing of plunking down the Ben Franklins on a Chinese made flat-screen?  Perhaps that grateful gift  receiver would like his driveway sealed, or lawn mowed for the summer, or driveway plowed all winter, or games at the local golf course.

There are a bazillion owner-run restaurants — all offering gift certificates.  And, if your intended isn’t the fancy eatery sort, what about a half-dozen breakfasts at the local breakfast joint.  Remember, folks this isn’t about big National chains — this is about supporting your home town Americans with their financial lives on the line to keep their doors open.

How many people couldn’t use an oil change for their car, truck or motorcycle, done at a shop run by the American working guy?  Thinking about a heartfelt gift for mom?  Mom would LOVE the services of a local cleaning lady for a day.

My computer could use a tune-up, and I KNOW I can find some young guy who is struggling to get his repair business up and running.  OK, you were looking for something more personal.  Local crafts people spin their own wool and knit them into scarves.  They make jewelry and pottery and beautiful wooden boxes.

Plan your holiday outings at local, owner-operated restaurants and leave your server a nice tip.  And, how about going out to see a play or ballet at your hometown theater?  Musicians need love too, so find a venue showcasing local bands.

Honestly, people, do you REALLY need to buy another ten thousand foreign-made lights for the house?  When you buy a five dollar string of light, about fifty cents stays in the community.  If you have those
kinds of bucks to burn, leave the mailman, trash guy or delivery person and babysitter a nice BIG tip.

You see, Christmas is no longer about draining American pockets and seeing our hard-earned wages go outside the country.  Christmas is now about caring about US, encouraging American small businesses to keep plugging away to follow their dreams. And, when we care about other Americans, we care about our communities and the benefits come back to us in ways we couldn’t imagine.

THIS is the new American Christmas tradition. Enjoy family get-togethers, church services, caroling, as in past Christmases but put more emphasis on the REASON FOR THE SEASON and less on material gifts.

Merry Christmas!

What do you think?

Die Hard: 4 Gallons or Death

You have a 3 gallon bucket and a 5 gallon bucket – neither have any measurement markers so all you know is that when either one of them is full, you have 3 and 5 gallons respectively.

There is a bomb (of course, why wouldn’t there be).

You can defuse the bomb if you put exactly 4 gallons worth of water weight on top of the bomb… any more or less will set it off.

Luckily the bomb is located next to a big water fountain – so you have unlimited water.


By moving water back and forth between the buckets, how can you get to 4 gallons, precisely?